My Nightmare Divorce Led Me To Find Dream-Marriage

You know, it’s funny. I have worked in IT for almost twenty years now, and I spend a considerable amount of my life on the internet, but this is the first time that it has ever occurred to me to write a blog. I’m not certain why it has taken me so long to make my way into the blogosphere – maybe I just never had anything to say before. But now – well, I have just started using an online dating and marriage site called dream-marriage.com, and while it’s been a great experience so far, I could use a sounding board.
Okay, first things first. My name is Phil, and I live in Philadelphia – and no, you may NOT call me Phil from Philly! I’m 42 years old, and currently single. I say currently, because this has not always been the case. Once upon a time, and until just about a year and a half ago – I was married, with two kids and a dog, living in the suburbs and doing all those things that old married guys in the suburbs do. My life wasn’t the most exciting one you could imagine, but I was quite satisfied with it. The problem was that Linda, my wife, wasn’t. She wanted “something more”, and it wasn’t long before I found out that whatever that “something more” was, it did NOT include me. She got herself a lawyer, and then proceeded to get herself my house, custody of my two kids, my dog, and most of my money. I now live in a two-bedroom apartment in Center City Philadelphia, get the kids on alternate weekends, get to see the dog when I stop over to mow my old lawn, or do some minor repair on my old house, and haven’t seen my money in months. Linda is now involved with a dentist named Jason who is 10 years younger than she is, and shows a lot of gums when he smiles.
After my divorce became final, I decided that I’d had it with women; I was going to be a loner. The problem with that was that I like women. So the next decision was that I was going to date everybody who would go out with me, and keep it casual and fun. The problem there was two-fold: dating can be really, really expensive, and I work the 4 to midnight shift, which cuts my options way down. Finally, I decided, okay, maybe I should look for another long term relationship – but I bet you can guess the problem with that. Every time I even thought I might have met someone I could get serious about, I started thinking about how Linda had just imploded our relationship for no reason, and drew away from it. I wasn’t certain what the answer was, but I knew that I needed to do something.
One night at work a couple of weeks ago, I was talking with a buddy of mine about my situation while we were updating the servers, and he suggested that I check out Dream-marriage.com. I had thought about online dating sites in the past, and I had even looked at a few of the ones I’d seen advertised on television, or on the internet, but none of them had impressed me much. I always figured that I would pretty much meet the same kind of people online that I would meet at any singles bar in the city. But my buddy told me that Dream-marriage wasn’t like – they specialized in bringing men from all over the world together with Russian women. Well, when I heard that, I pretty much said thanks, but no thanks. If I couldn’t find what I wanted in the good old United States, what on earth made him think I was going to find someone in Russia!
I don’t know what it was exactly that changed my mind – maybe the fact that there was a three-day weekend coming up and not my turn with the kids – but I asked my buddy for the name of that Russian website again. I pretty much decided what the hell – it couldn’t hurt to look at it, and see what they had to offer.
I went to the address on the internet, and the first thing I noticed was how slick and easy to navigate the site was (IT guys notice things like that). Finding where I wanted to go wasn’t hard at all – the site is efficiently set up and user friendly. They have just about every security verification you can think of, which made me feel a whole lot better about being there. A lot of sites will tell you they’re secure, but if I don’t see McAfee Secure on a site, I get nervous. There was no lag moving from page to page, everything loaded fast, which meant that the site appeared to be well managed, and the links took me to where they said they would. For me, how well a website works tells me a lot about how well it is managed and what kind of care the owners take of it. This site is top of the line.
After I had satisfied my natural geek requirements checking out how the site performed, I checked out their three-day free trial membership page, assuming that it was going to be three free days IF you also signed up for six months or a year of their service afterwards, or that it would be three free days with no actual access to anything. I was wrong on both counts. It was three free days to test out the service, no strings attached. If I didn’t like it, that was that. If I did like it, I could get a membership for as little as one month at a time. After looking over the terms and conditions for ‘the catch’, and finding that it wasn’t there, I signed up. I immediately had access to the site’s basic services.
As I write this, I’m off work and without the kids -- again. Believe me, I will be spending some time back on Dream-marriage.com. Today is day two of my free trial, and I still haven’t managed to get through all the stuff this site has to offer (and I will admit that part of the reason for that is that I keep clicking on some of the incredibly hot women’s photo gallery and reading their profiles). I am pretty much all the way convinced that I will be signing up for this service once the trial runs out. To be honest, this is the most fun I’ve had online in a long time.
Anyway, that’s about it for now. I’ll let you know how it goes, and thanks for reading my blog. Comments and suggestions always welcomed (unless you happen to be my ex-wife), and I will keep you posted.